That elusive joy called happiness is not a big secret... you can have it if you want it. You just want to have it.
Yes I know... it sounds too simple. However inundated with commercial after commercial and ad after ad telling us that if we buy <insertproducthere> that you will attain a happiness that will be greater than your neighbors until he buys the next biggest thing will shred your thoughts of happiness down to the core. We are trained to believe that we cannot have it unless we pay big bucks for it and even then there is no guarantee that you will be happy.
So what is it? What is the big secret?
I will be willing to share it but first you need to be willing to do a few things. Thing 1... Turn off your damn TV. It will do you no good to have the dream killer on while you concentrate on being happy.
Thing 2... Live up to your own expectations. Unless you are getting paid to present yourself a certain way it makes no sense to have someone set their expectations of who and what you are day in and day out.
Thing 3... Figure out what is yours (emotionally, financially, physically, etc...) and own it. That means figuring out what does not belong to you and giving it back to whoever it belongs to or just letting it go. It also means taking back what belongs to you. It is time to understand what your willpower is and how it might affect others. I would suggest giving your willpower to a higher power and let them give it to you as you need it, not as you want it.
Understand that happiness is like a puddle in the sidewalk. People spend hours and days staring into it seeing if there is some understanding they might be missing. They also take careful steps around it. In some cases avoiding it as they don't want to disturb it. Others will avoid it as they are not deserving of happiness.
Step into it. Learn what it feels like and what you can accomplish if you let it.
Like the grace of God, happiness is there if you want it. It is free of charge you just have to take it.